Lance Armstrong won the Tour de France so many times, despite the bitterness of the French press that tried to discredit him time and again, that it astonishes us. He rose from cancer victim to cancer conqueror to cycling victor. He was determined. At times he fell behind other cyclists in different stages of the races. Reportedly, falling behind was on purpose so he could conserve his strength for more difficult stages. Other times, it was because someone, perhaps a sprinter, put on a burst of speed and outdid him.
He was determined. At times he fell behind other cyclists in different stages of the races. Reportedly, falling behind was on purpose so he could conserve his strength for more difficult stages. Other times, it was because someone, perhaps a sprinter, put on a burst of speed and outdid him. Whatever, he kept himself from being discouraged, figured out how he could have done better, and charged forth again with victory in mind.
We say that because if he were a good husband, he would have worked on preserving his marriage, and wouldn’t have a bevy of “relationships” behind him. His legitimate children would still have a full time father, and his other children wouldn’t have to carry the stigma of illegitimacy around with them all of their lives.
Perhaps the fact that he was an illegitimate child, himself, that his birth father left him and his mother, and that his mother had married and divorced three times, had something to do with his attitude toward relationships. It is quite possible that it was his lack of faith and being a proclaimed agnostic. He is quoted as saying: At the end of the day, if there was indeed some body or presence standing there to judge me, I hoped I would be judged on whether I had lived a true life…
A true life? Excuse us? Yes, he was true to cycling. It does not seem that he was true in any way in his personal life. However, since we don’t know the man personally, it could be that he would have been true had his wives been true. We don’t know who was at fault, but if he is like the majority of men, and especially since he had to be gone much of the time to pursue his career, it is likely that he didn’t meet his wives’ and girlfriends’ emotional needs - essential for women.
Every marriage should have, as its goal, love that reaches the arte level, the Greek word for excellence. “That’s easy,” says the newlywed who is still starry-eyed and the truth hasn’t hit the fan yet. “We’re doing fine,” says the husband who isn’t meeting his wife’s emotional needs. “I’ve settled for less than what I desire,” says the wife who has given up hope.
Our Love Relationship System was created for this very purpose - showing couples how to reach that level of art or close to it so that their marriages will stay strong and secure.
By doing that you can do him one better and preserve your own marriage and give your children parents that raise them to be solid, secure and trustworthy adults. We give you the tools and the keys for doing just that at www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com: separate tools both for men and for women. Come join us now for a sparkling future in your marriage.
Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com
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